What's Age Got To Do Wit It?

Everything Booboo.

I know that the last couple of years, the phase seems to be these super young cats chasing older women..the "cougars", but I will be be SOOOO happy when the phase passes. Let me preface that by saying, yep..I've dated some younger guys..so I know some of them can be appealing. BUTTTTTTTT...this new phase, it seems like these lil boys are getting younger and younger. And I'm sorry but, I have NO plans to raise any more children.

Anywhoo....I usually try to keep it light when the youngins approach me. *I'm sorry Sweety, but my KIDS are older than you* And then comes the inevitable *Whats age got to do wit it?* Umm...EVERYTHING Booboo.

Let's discuss. There are the obvious differences:

Im a grown ass woman, with grown ass woman issues. I have been married, divorced, married, divorced again, had children, raised children, dealt with life changing challenges and health issues, started careers, paid grown ass woman bills, build grown ass woman debt, etc.

You have MAYBE moved from your parents house and into a dorm room. Maybe you have had a lil part time job or done work study. Umm...thats it.

Then you get the inevitable...*I'm mature for my age. I always dated older women* I don't care...you ain't never dated MY old ass!! There are certain things about a woman over a certain age, that just are not gonna be understood by someone that young. Yeah, they can empathize, but until they have LIVED to a certain age, you will never understand:  aging body issues,  high blood pressure, being afraid to sneeze cough or laugh, hearing fading, teeth getting weaker, can't eat fast food anymore, feet swelling, hair turning grey...OTHER hair turning grey!!!  Etc etc....  So miss me with that.

Clarity

Isn't clarity a beautiful thing? This last week has been filled with plenty for me. Clarity for what is important, what's not, WHO is important and who's not. There's something about sitting up in a hospital bed for a few days that really makes you go within yourself to look at some things in your life.

I've come to realize that I give certain people WAY too much credit and importance in my life. Thankfully, I've always been able to recognize the GOOD people that I am surrounded by..thats never been an issue. I have some AWESOME people in my circle. But I just realize that I've allowed people who add absolutely no value to my life and who can only be found in god times to remain on the friends list.

A real eye opener..I had Aja text someone who I've been building with and spending time with to tell him I was being admitted to the hospital. His reply? *Oh kay...tell her to hit me up when she gets home* Ummm....scuse nukka? Orrrr...let me talk about a certain someone who's been in my life the last 4 years...who begs for another chance since he royally screwed up the first chance. I was admitted into the hospital with my lungs shutting down..important stuff. Have not heard even a *get well soon* from him. BUH BYE baby. These are just examples..please believe, I don't expect people to drop their busy schedles and jump to be by my side. But, there were certain people who I kinda would have appreciated knowing they cared. On the other hand..there were some who surprised me with how quick they jumped up and wanted to be there for me. I truly love and appreciate the people in my life. THANK YOU ALL!!!! Okay, that was my little vent. Sorry for the negativity..but it truly is actually a positive. I have some clarity and I love it. Now it's time to go make some important deletions.